I’ve never met anyone in my entire life that has said parenting was easy. In fact, they’ve all said it’s the hardest thing they’ve ever done. My kids are living up to that expectation so I know we’re right on track. Add on top of it the fact that I can’t see and you’ve got a rather interesting mixture.
I’ve been amazed at how quick the kids pick up on the fact that I can’t see. Sophie couldn’t explain what “blind” means but when she wants to show me something she puts it in my hand or puts my finger on it instead of just holding it out. It’s sort of like her subconscious understands but if she were to really think about it then it wouldn’t make any sense at all.
Kadence knows her left and rights now better than my dad ever will. She and I work on that daily. Not because we like doing it but because it’s just part of life.
Most of the time, if I ask her where something is, she will say, “up on the left” or “on the right side of the shelf”. It’s amazing really. She’s especially good at explaining where the show she wants to watch is located in the grid of choices on our Apple TV.
Jack of course is far too small to act any different with me than anyone else. Well I guess I’m the only parent whose eye he regularly pops out and tries to eat. Unsuccessfully I’ll add.
It is amusing to chase the little guy around the house when all I can hear is his little grunts and the shuffling of his pants on the floor.
As you can probably guess though, it’s not all crawling, teamwork, cuteness and me trying to keep my eye out of someones mouth. These kids have such strong personalities that just thinking about the teenage years is causing my hairline to recede.
Kadence is one of the most dramatic people I’ve ever had the pleasure to meet. A few weeks ago Jesse and I were having some sort of conversation that didn’t involve kids but, true to form, Kadence was there trying to interact and have her opinions known. Time after time we’d asked her to hush and let mom and dad talk. We tell her to go play with her toys and Sophie and she almost never does it.. It’s amazing how difficult it is to get that little girl to go and play with her toys. She’d rather talk politics than play with Barbies most of the time. It’s so weird.
So after Jesse and I accepted the fact that we would never finish our conversation with her there we sent her off to go find toys to play with. Not a very harsh sentence in my opinion.
She then visibly wilts. Shoulders slump, head bows, and her little lip pokes out. She slowly turns around and shuffles down the hall to her room.
Jesse and I had a little chuckle and then the real drama started. Kadence started having a very emotional conversation with herself saying, barely holding her tears back,
“I just wish someone would play with me. It’s just to hard to be a kid.”
This is all true folks. That girl is something and that is just one of many similar stories. It’s always amusing until I start to wonder how this is going to be when she is 15.
Sophie on the other hand is like a bull in a china shop. Full speed, full volume, full intensity, all the time. She runs on the outside of the net on the trampoline instead of jumping on it, she climbs the frame of the swing set instead of swinging, she goes everywhere , especially outside, in only a diaper, and, if by some miracle, she falls asleep during the day it’s sprawled across the arms of the couch instead of on the cushions. I just don’t get it.
She loves it when I put her on my shoulders. Not because she likes the nice view but because she can then throw herself off backwards and hang upside down. I learned pretty quick not to let her feet go when she’s up there.
This all sort of reminds me of…well, me…which sort of makes me afraid of things to come. A little proud and a little afraid, all sort of mixed together.
So far the only things that have scared little Sophie are fireworks and the pest control guy. If either of those two things are around you can bet she’ll be right in mom or dad’s arms. I’m thinking about hiring that bug guy to just sit in my living room during the day.
She is the little helper and wants to do everything. Literally everything. She wants to turn the TV on, feed the cats, open every door, say every prayer, stir all the food, and anytime she hears the word “No” she explodes in the sort of tantrum every parent dreads. Especially when it’s at checkout at the grocery store. Which reminds me, if I ever find the person who is responsible for putting candy in the checkout aisle I’m going to strangle you seriously. Very slowly too.
Both girls are already masters at saying what they know dad wants to hear instead of what is necessarily true. I’ll ask if their room is clean to which almost every time they respond with a yes. 90% of the time I don’t make it more than a step or two in the room before I hit the mountain of toys. Kadence always makes this frustrated UGH sound when I double check what she tells me.
With a little prodding it’s amazing how well that kid can work though. She is especially good when it comes to guiding me around public places. I’ve never had to worry about walking into anything when Kadence is around. I’ve been amazed at how good of a caretaker she is, when she wants to be.
Like I said, thinking of the teenage years is making my hair go gray. It feels like it anyway. I can already imagine these kids trying to sneak smooches with boys in the living room in front of me…
You may be wondering what my plan of action is. How am I going to handle these kids down the road? The honest answer is I have no clue. I’m just going to try and raise them the best I can, with strong morals and values, and leave the rest to the man upstairs. I also might sell all the couches and replace them all with camp chairs that can’t fit two people without stacking…which surely I’ll catch.
Parenting has tested my patience in ways I never imagined. It’s also been the most rewarding thing I’ve done. It’s been one of the most fun adventures I’ve ever been on and I am so blessed to have this amazing little family. These kids are the most amazing blessing and I’m grateful for every day I get to spend with them. I’m excited for the future!